Friday, March 07, 2008
i started observing people and analysing certain behaviours, including mine, every now and then. i'll recall my actions, the words and certain expressions that i may have and i realised, i have certain different behaviours, like the people i observed. the reason is very simple.
loneliness.
we are seeking attention from people and hope to receive certain care and concern from them. i do not deny that i am an attention seeker. and it explains many of my unusual behaviours. in fact, i didn't like my way of thinking and the way i express myself. somehow, there must be a way that i can vent out my
"attention-seeking-ness" in me. i
hope.
and i'm not the only one. many people i've seen and observed, from secondary school till now, have the same problem. in fact, the ones i observed are the ones whom are usually shunned by the majority. they have few or no friends at all. i wonder sometimes, whether is this really right? some of them are really ok people, yet they are seen as plague and shunned off at all cost. most of the time, people based on someone's comments to judge people for who they are and create a sense of prejudice and stereotype for the person. it just comes in unknowingly, subconsciously. bit by bit, drop by drop, one after another. before we know it, we already formed a painted image of the person before even understanding him or her well.
furthermore, people are driven by the
social norms. realised that? sounds familiar? it's an inevitable, undeniable fact of the society. we all follow social norms don't we? we dislike been despise, being shunned and being
ostracized. who likes that anyway. i'm guilty of that. but it's really sad to see it in school. isn't it? imagine you are one of them. how lonely will you feel. in fact, sadness, anxiety and worries starts to pile in. you won't know what others are talking about you behind your back, and the horrid names they sometimes call you. i don't know why.
differences, i supposed. life is already tough enough, why must we make other's life even tougher? for entertainment in our dull lives, which we want to add excitement?
i guess, i am not the best person to talk about these people as i have not helped them at all. i feel sad for them sometimes. yet i'm one of those who does the horrid things to them too.
differences, make the world exciting, ever changing. yet, it brings about problems like this. when can we learn to make compromises? when can we learn to trust? when can we learn to accept or at least accomodate with some politeness? when can we realise that differences make the world beautiful, with different cultures and people, not to fill this world with resent, hate and bloodshed? when can we learn to empathise and sympathise and have the courage to do the right thing? it's difficult. with the society and people around you telling you what to do. it's never easy. if it was, the people now will not be suffering, both psycologically and physically.
sad fact hur. don't want to end up too badly? at least having some compassion? take some time out to observe people. hectic lifestyle make us lose all these. i'm working hard at this too. shall hold back before creating any stereotypes. shall learn to think through the comments. hear gossips, but take it with
a pinch of salt.
learn not to waver.
LEARNING POINTS for me:
THINK. your brain is there for you not to only absorb information, but to process it. do not accept info wholesale.
HAVE YOUR OWN POINT OF VIEW. do not let the society or people tell you what to do and how to see things. view it from your perspective before setting any conclusions.
WE SHOULD NOT JUDGE. we do this unknowingly. reflecting should help in stopping myself from doing so. i guess, should think of questions to stop myself.
Swallowtail 12:22:00 AM
